Studies in human behavior have determined that there are two types of mindsets within humanity. I have written about them extensively, but to summarize:
A fixed mindset is the glass half-empty, “it is what it is” type of people. They are the killjoy people in the world. Limited energy and negative attitude. They are victims, and life has not been kind to them – ask them, and they will tell you of all the wrongs done to them.
A growth mindset is the other half of society. The growth mindset people believe they can figure it out. They can grow to reach new levels. They typically avoid blaming others, the system, or society for the challenges they face. They give the world hope.
The exciting aspect of this fixed versus growth mindset concept is that we have a choice. We can choose a fixed or growth because it is a mindset. What is your mindset? Do you believe the future will be better than the past? Your answer says it all. People with a growth mindset believe the best is yet to come. They don’t live in the past. If they fail, they pick themselves up (maybe after a brief pity party), and move on. They learn from their mistakes. They might grieve, grovel, and gripe, but eventually, they let go.
The fixed mindset people store their past failures and the transgressions of others on the ready for immediate retrieval. They seek reinforcements for their limiting beliefs anywhere they can find them – communications with friends, the news, coworkers, the internet, etc. These people are typically miserable and seeking every justification available to reinforce the misery. We experience it everywhere. Of course, it isn’t you. Right? If you are generally unhappy or depressed, it is for good reason! “You don’t understand, Russ. You haven’t been through what I have been through.” People throw this out as if they are the only people to experience failure, loss, or a stab in the back. Fixed mindset folks have a narcissistic tendency. They believe they are justified in their never-ending pity party. Still not you, is it? I hope not, but I have lived around fixed mindset people long enough to know they are quick to point out the faults of others but slow to see their shortcomings.
In contrast, growth mindset people can tell you their faults and what they are doing to work on them. Regardless of your current mindset, you have a choice. Here are five steps to manifest anything you want in your life. If you are skeptical of this claim, you might be in fixed mode.
Five Steps to Manifest Anything in Life:
Choose a growth mindset.
If you want to manifest anything in your life, you will need to choose growth mode over fixed mode. It is just that straight forward. If you are in fixed mode, it is not easy to break free. You have likely had years of programming. Here are a few ideas to help you begin to shift your mode:
Personal Narrative – You are going to need to take control of that voice inside your head. The voice in your head that seeks validation at every turn needs to know you are in charge now. This voice wants to recall failures, transgressions of others, and broken dreams. This personal narrative uses the past as a weapon against a better future.
Demonstrate Gratitude – It will be essential for you to keep your narrative in check by expressing gratitude each day. Find at least one thing to be grateful for in your life.
Meditate – Meditation has been a transformational tool for me. It has helped me to be an observer of my thoughts rather than a slave to them. Just 20 minutes a day can make all the difference. In the beginning, you will feel like you are wasting your time, but the brain is a muscle and repetition coupled with practice will strengthen it.
Demonstrate genuine appreciation – Thank every person that assists you in any way, and mean it! Do this every day!
Let go – If you are allowing the past to dictate your attitude in the present, shame on you. You are an adult, let it go!
After you choose a growth mindset, you are ready for the next step. Success in manifesting the life we desire has 90% to do with attitude, so getting that right is a necessity – Congratulations!
Choose the path.
This step is all about making the plan for the life you desire to manifest. Here is how to make a plan:
Visualize the end. What does it look like when it is all said and done? Think big, dream big. What will your legacy be? Get out a pen and paper and start writing.
Core value discovery. What character values matter most to you? I have 12 core values that I will seek to uphold no matter what. These core values become the foundation on which you build your future.
How will you serve? The happiest, most satisfied people are those that focus on serving. Most people think service is free, but the highest-paid among us are those that figure out how to serve the most. Service is not anathema to poverty.
What are the goals? Make a list of goals you would like to achieve in pursuit of your vision. Choose three that are personal, and three that are focused on how you serve. Write a paragraph or two about why you want to achieve each goal. If you can’t find the “why” for the goal, I suggest choosing another goal. The “why” is critical because it keeps you moving forward through the sucky parts of the progression toward your goals. Then identify the next few steps and the obstacles you will potentially encounter. Identify who can help you along the way. We need encouragement at times and a swift kick at other times, and that is why you should surround yourself with people that will help keep you on track.
Take consistent action.
Hope is vital, but without action, there is no hope. Now that you have a plan, it is time to take action. The question is, what is the next step that will move you closer to achieving your goals? Your mission is always to be moving forward through action. Prayer is helpful but works best when coupled with action. Short and sweet – move forward! Many times in the pursuit of your dreams and manifesting the life you desire, the temptation to sleep-in will arise. Crush it with consistent action. The way to manifest dreams is through consistent action. There will be times when all seems hopeless. Push forward with consistent action, even in the darkest moments, and the universe will bend to your will. Every hero’s journey has obstacles, and anything worth having must be earned.
If you want to accelerate your progress toward your dreams, find someone that will hold you accountable. Accountability could come from a mentor, colleague, coach, or group. They can kick you in the tail when necessary, call you out on your excuses, and give you hope when the days are darkest. Seek accountability and community!
Grow in Community.
Surround yourself with friends and colleagues focused on growth. Finding the right community is a challenge. Pursuing your dreams with intentional, positive action isn’t the norm, so finding people with a similar mindset can be difficult. Your neighbors and friends think you are crazy. They struggle to comprehend why you do what you do in pursuit of your dreams. That is okay. Do not judge them. Seek growth communities. Local groups include Toastmasters and Dale Carnegie. Depending on what you are pursuing, there are various business networking groups like Rotary that you could get involved with as well. I am involved in a couple of coaching programs and masterminds that help keep me on track. Regardless of how you do it, I can’t emphasize the importance of getting around the right people, enough. One hidden benefit to these groups is that you will have the opportunity to share your experience. The sharing of experience helps the community, but it also helps you by locking in the lessons learned.
I want to give you hope and a kick in the tail. You can manifest amazing things in your life, whether you are 18 or 78. The universe does not discriminate, but if you want something different, you need to choose accordingly. Start today or start tomorrow, but any procrastination is simply an excuse. The conditions will never be just right. Now is the time to move forward!